daddy's little girl...

As I listened to the soothing sounds of a little Miracle giggling on the other end of the phone, I was thrown back into time, back in the days of my childhood, when most of my happy memories are filled with my father’s protective hugs and his comforting smile. A time when I was the princess of my domain, my daddy’s heart.

Moments of encouragement and euphoria, unconditional love and support…hmm…those were the days…

So many of my male friends have kids, specifically daughters. Some are present to see all the ‘firsts’ and ‘news’ experienced when raising a child, others are not so fortunate. ‘Baby mothers’ are a powerful force here in the U.S.; you’d be surprised what the rest of the world felt about mothers at one point.

Believe It or not, females are affected by the presence of a male during the early years. I’m sure you all know the people we interact with during the primary stage of socialization, (ages 0 to 4/5) help in the shaping of the character. So if for example, I was raised by Mama Dione and my homie Avalaishoseana grew up with both her parents, being that I had no experience of having a stable male role model (not counting uncles, older brothers, stepfathers, etc), my mother’s feelings towards men might be what I embrace, and that might not be the most positive. Avalai had the experience of a man in her life so she has her own idea when it comes to the role…ya digging it so far?

Why do you think women end up with the same kind of man their mothers did?

I look for a man that is educated, willing to share responsibilities and be codependent, one that expresses himself and acts as a provider. That’s how my father was when he and my mother were together. Don’t get it twisted though, I’m no Elektra and I’m definitely not looking for my father’s twin. But being that my father played a major part in my life, and was the one who filled the role of ‘the man’ in my family, the qualities he possessed during my happy childhood are the ones I look fort in a partner.

I urge my friends to play that part in their daughters’ lives. Don’t just pay visits and send checks. Get to know your seeds, show her what a good man and father is. You don’t have to be with the mother of your children. But do think about the treatment and attitudes you both have towards each other. Whether positive or negative it affects your kids, and that’s what people tend to forget.

You females that want to cut the father out the child’s life because you can’t stand him, is that fair to your daughter? Of course everyone has their reasons and positions and they all differ from one another…I can dig the circumstances.

But why not give the man a chance to be a good father?

Men, why not try helping raise your daughter to the best of your ability?

I’m no expert, I’m just saying, family is an institution and it’s the last one we can count on in the shaping of our children and their future. God knows Education and Society has failed TERRIBLY!

The last institution (sociologically speaking), think about that, and it’s only getting weaker, Resulting in the single families, divorces, and infidelities.

Do you really want your kids to rely on T.V., society and their peers to know what a father is supposed to be….I sure the hell don’t.

Shout outs to all the father’s doing their best to raise those pretty daughters…