hey there...
all is well these days. in school part time, full time girlfriend to a guy shorter than me. Apparently i'm emotionally unavailable. ANYWAY, moms leaving to go to germany and/ or Guinea. should be fun for her...missing my old old life so much these days .
seen so many movies, it's almost sad...i really hate the new ZELDA, 24/7 in my house. I've obviously run out of things to say wit this blog....i think i need to grow into the next phase of my being and then return wit beautifully hysterical stories of illegal activites and sexual adventures.
i need to read a book....
Thursday, February 24, 2005
Thursday, February 03, 2005
May-December-ish
Today is ma fathers birthday. SO i figure its a perfect time to talk about relationships and age. Without disclosing anyones identity, i must tackle this issue since it's been traveling the air waves at the peach pit recently.
My parents are 10 to 13 years apart, depending on how old my mother is for the day. In my culture, it's regarded as a wiser, older, more experienced man guiding a younger, lost, don't want to say helpless, but...struggling maybe, female. You take her into a your life, and show her the ropes almost, back then dating was a no no.
I'm not turning this into African history class, the point is my parents have the massive disgusting age gap in my opinion but you cant tell since ma pops looks and acts so young...
Now, R.kelly is a child molestor. I'm sure we all agree. But is it really wrong for two people who have genuine feelings for each other to be together despite the age difference?
Two summers ago, i met a 16 year old girl, she seemed like your everyday chick, until i met her husband. He was in his late 20's and seemed to love her very much. The relationship seemed healthy but who really knows. She converted to islam so that they could get married when she was 15. At first i was freaked out, cuz euw dats nasty. But i'm in no position to speak, i myself have been with older men and found nothing wrong wit it. So when i asked her why, she said she was very much in love with him, and loves the married life. I couldnt believe her parents let her do this, but then again parents dont hold that much weight these days.
So now, i've got two people who seem to like each other that i see everyday. THey don't hide their feelings from anyone so it's no secret. Now the issue is, she'll be 17 later this year and he just turned 20. Right off the back you're thinking he just wants pussy. But common sense tells him he cant just want pussy cuz he's got about 6 big ass football player guys to deal wit and myself of course. He's not as stupid as most horny college guys...point is there's feelings between them. Now i personally think they should go ahead and do them and be in the relationship, she's gotta learn sometime right? But the football player guys feel that she shouldnt because if he hurts her they might have to come out of character. Now i think people should just mind their business but we really sat down and had the mean group forum about these two. I can side with the female because i've been through this shit, people "advising" me not to do something when it's got nothing to do with them. The guy is genuine about his feelings, hes a close friend to the circle, but everyone seems to be pushing him further and further away from the circle because of this bullshitt.
Do ALL older men look to younger women to satisfy their sexual urges? Or could it be because being with women their age or older than them hasnt worked out well? Or wat possible other reasons can there be? I mean seriously, is it just a manipulation/pussy thing? Cuz i would hate to have to hurt this guy over something like that.
My parents are 10 to 13 years apart, depending on how old my mother is for the day. In my culture, it's regarded as a wiser, older, more experienced man guiding a younger, lost, don't want to say helpless, but...struggling maybe, female. You take her into a your life, and show her the ropes almost, back then dating was a no no.
I'm not turning this into African history class, the point is my parents have the massive disgusting age gap in my opinion but you cant tell since ma pops looks and acts so young...
Now, R.kelly is a child molestor. I'm sure we all agree. But is it really wrong for two people who have genuine feelings for each other to be together despite the age difference?
Two summers ago, i met a 16 year old girl, she seemed like your everyday chick, until i met her husband. He was in his late 20's and seemed to love her very much. The relationship seemed healthy but who really knows. She converted to islam so that they could get married when she was 15. At first i was freaked out, cuz euw dats nasty. But i'm in no position to speak, i myself have been with older men and found nothing wrong wit it. So when i asked her why, she said she was very much in love with him, and loves the married life. I couldnt believe her parents let her do this, but then again parents dont hold that much weight these days.
So now, i've got two people who seem to like each other that i see everyday. THey don't hide their feelings from anyone so it's no secret. Now the issue is, she'll be 17 later this year and he just turned 20. Right off the back you're thinking he just wants pussy. But common sense tells him he cant just want pussy cuz he's got about 6 big ass football player guys to deal wit and myself of course. He's not as stupid as most horny college guys...point is there's feelings between them. Now i personally think they should go ahead and do them and be in the relationship, she's gotta learn sometime right? But the football player guys feel that she shouldnt because if he hurts her they might have to come out of character. Now i think people should just mind their business but we really sat down and had the mean group forum about these two. I can side with the female because i've been through this shit, people "advising" me not to do something when it's got nothing to do with them. The guy is genuine about his feelings, hes a close friend to the circle, but everyone seems to be pushing him further and further away from the circle because of this bullshitt.
Do ALL older men look to younger women to satisfy their sexual urges? Or could it be because being with women their age or older than them hasnt worked out well? Or wat possible other reasons can there be? I mean seriously, is it just a manipulation/pussy thing? Cuz i would hate to have to hurt this guy over something like that.
Tuesday, February 01, 2005
Lately...
Had to jump financial, emotional, and family hurdles to get myself into school. Just means i can't fuck up now. Feel like i'm losing my close friends, i don't know what to say or do about that one. Been a bit irresponsible in certain aspects of my life; getting things in order now. Thinking about leaving New York for a while, maybe this summer.
Tired as hell for the past three weeks; thanks to my midget and sticky. SO much drama at the Peach Pit, it never ends...but it keeps me going.
Is it wrong for a 20 yo to go after a 16 soon to be 17 yo ? Do you think it can be genuine and not just be about sex? That'll be my next blog...
Tired as hell for the past three weeks; thanks to my midget and sticky. SO much drama at the Peach Pit, it never ends...but it keeps me going.
Is it wrong for a 20 yo to go after a 16 soon to be 17 yo ? Do you think it can be genuine and not just be about sex? That'll be my next blog...
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